Ah, oral sex … the first posts I wrote about it were oh-so-popular. Indeed, some scholars believe that the lovers mention oral sex poetically in Song of Songs with these verses:. Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread everywhere. I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride; I have gathered my myrrh with my spice. I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey; I have drunk my wine and my milk. Believe me, a lot of husbands would welcome that. You can enjoy what works for you both, and over time some other options might open up. Both your mouths and genitalia should be free of any lesions, sores, or wounds. Most of the warnings about lack of hygiene with oral sex presumes multiple sex and unknown status of sexually transmitted infections. In marriage, however, we have the benefit of a single partner and, hopefully, open communication about our health status.
Methods that real Christian wives use
Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my beloved among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste. Song of Solomon His fruit is sweet to her taste? That definitely sounds like oral sex to me. We may take a mouthful, use our fingers to dip into something creamy, use just the tip of our tongue, or pull the food all the way into the back of our mouth for a full taste.
Where oral sex happens
Years ago, I was having lunch with a woman who would eventually become one of my closest friends. To say she and I had great ease in talking about sex in our marriages would be an understatement. To this day, she is a confidante who I know will always be up for a transparent and authentic conversation about sexual struggles and sexual joys. I know there are many wives out there who have never given oral sex to their husband, or if they have, they do not enjoy it. The reasons can vary, but suffice to say, most reasons would fall into at least one of the below categories:. If you are steadfast against giving oral sex to your husband, I am not sure if anything I write here is going to sway your opinion the other direction. I also recognize that some couples have mutually agreed to not include oral sex in their sexual intimacy, and I respect this choice. My experience has been, though, that the exclusion of oral sex is rarely a mutual decision. Someone in the marriage has selfishly dismissed it without genuinely thinking through that decision or the impact it has on their spouse. My heart is always to challenge people where they may be sabotaging intimacy.
Hello Anna,. I have been with my wife for almost three years. When we met, my wife hadn't had sex in almost 10 years—after moving to Chicago from Poland. She decided to renew her Catholic faith and not have sex before marriage. However, I convinced her that "tasting her" wasn't that bad! Now to my dismay, we are married and the only way she can orgasm is from me "tasting her. However, I want to please her completely. What should I do? Dear Taste,. By "please her completely," do you mean "with your penis"?